Anticipatory grief: grieving while you're still caring
Part of Carer wellbeing
By CareCircle Family editorial team · Published 2026-09-26 · Last reviewed 2026-09-26 · 4 min read
Many carers feel grief before a death — for changes in the person, their relationship or plans they'd made. It's a common experience, and support is available whenever you need it.
What it can feel like
People describe sadness, guilt, anger, numbness or relief, sometimes all in one day. There's no correct way to feel.
Small things that may help
Talk to someone you trust. Share the practical load so you have time to rest. Some people find it helpful to keep ordinary good moments alongside the hard ones.
When to seek help
If you're struggling to cope, speak to your GP. Cruse and Marie Curie offer support to people caring for someone who is seriously ill.
Official guidance and further reading
Check these organisations for the latest rules and guidance for your location.
Frequently asked questions
- Is it wrong to grieve someone who is still alive?
- No. Anticipatory grief is widely recognised. It doesn't mean you have given up on them.
Related guides
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